Fat Girl in a Skinny Girl World

I decided to write this post because I’m sure there are people out here who have to go through random strangers telling them what they need to do, as far as health is concerned. I’m sure I’m not the only one who has heard this before, “Your a pretty girl, you just have to slow down on the eating” or “You would be beating them off with a stick if you lost a couple of pounds” and lets not forget “You have such a pretty face”. All of these phrases PISS me off beyond belief! It’s like, the rest of me is trash because I’m a fat girl. I hate the way people treat fat girls and guys. It’s almost like, you don’t matter or have a say so in anything because of what you look like. I’m sure this happens to other people that are so called attractive challenged, but I believe it happens to plush people more.

Many times people won’t even look at you (opposite sex especially), because they think you want to get with them, and half the time they are not all that, side note: Honey I could do way betta. But they think because you are not the normal type of  attractive that you want them. I got news for all of you out there who have ever had an encounter with someone of a larger stature that was of the opposite sex, and thought they wanted to get with you because they were being extra nice. News flash; it’s not always about you Boo Boo.  Sometimes plush people are either nicer or meaner because of the way society has treated them, in short: they become this way in order to move through the world unseen and unscathed. Not saying that these tactics always work, but most times it positively changes the way people interact with you.

In my day to day life I feel that I have to be this way in order for people to except me. I know that’s sad, but that seems to be the way this world works. I can’t tell you how many times someone thought that their opinion was needed or warranted. Telling me, “You know, that’s not good for you?” Sometimes I just feel like saying, “B****, did I ask you?!” I know that’s not the way to be, but don’t tell people what’s good for them unless they insinuated that they want your opinion; especially if you don’t know them. If you see a big woman or man eating something that isn’t good for them, many times it’s because they were triggered to eat that ice cream or pizza, or cake. Long story short, everyone has a different way of coping with life and the triggers that come with it. Just because I decide to dull the pain or anxiety through gorging on food makes me no worse or better than you. I just say, make sure all of your areas of life are together before you try walking in to mine and making a bigger mess because you assume you know what you’ve walked in too.

The misconception is, people think because you eat a lot, that’s the problem. That’s not the problem. The real problem is different areas of your life need changing for the better. Have you ever noticed when you feel depressed you want something sweet and when you’re stressed you want something salty? The reason that is, is do to different parts of the brain being triggered by a certain smell or taste or feeling. When you see an overweight person, they are usually like that because they haven’t been taught any different or their emotions are in control of what they eat, when they eat, and how much they eat. Before you try to judge, get to know the person first. Stop determining a person’s worth by what they have or how they look. When you engage in vain behavior such as this, a lot of the times you miss out on knowing a really amazing person.

Thanks For Reading!!

 

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